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How to Bounce Back

Tips if you're fired, broke or dumped

The boss comes to your cubicle and says, "I need to talk to you..." (and you know what it means). You swipe your ATM card only to find your balance is nil. And just when you think, it can't get worse, the romance of your life comes to a screeching halt. 

The anxiety of life's pitfalls can be excruciating. Emotional pain is just as real as physical pain and in some ways, harder to endure because we don't know when we will heal. But when the unexpected yucky parts of life befall us, we can sit in a room blowing up black balloons while our ex moves out or our job vanishes - or you can get off your butt and start the step by step process of getting over it and moving on.
The first step is to drop the "why is this happening to me" real fast because while most folks walk around with a smile on their face, the truth is we have all been through life's potholes and the ones that are smiling are joyous with the knowledge that they have endured!

So let's run down some of life's big, big bummers and find out just what it takes to make it through to another day.

You put in your years as an assistant. You invented a brilliant new way to bring profits to the shareholders. You learned golf to schmooze with your boss. You showed up every morning wondering, how can I make this company better? Then, out of the blue, you were told to empty your desk. Something here doesn't add up, right? No, it doesn't. Were you really thinking of the company first? Did your brilliant ideas really gel with your coworkers? Did you make any effort to get in with the people who could promote you? Did you really want to work there?

Surprise firings are rarely a surprise. Usually it's exactly what you want and your actions show it. So put down the fork you are using to eat denial pie and ask yourself - what is my real dream job and what is the first step I have to take to get it?

Serious panic at the ATM? The divorce wiped you out, the doctor's bill came, or maybe it's the good old, "I just don't know where the money went." Being broke is one of the realities of our shifting economy and the uncertainty of well, life. But, what's great about being broke is there is a clear solution - make more money. Lay your pride aside and jump into the workforce or, get a second job. Coffee maker, clothing seller, pancake flipper -whatever.

There is no shame in making money. There is only shame in pretending that you don't need to. So get off the crying couch and fill out applications, sign up for a headhunter and remember, money follows money. Make some, and pretty soon you'll make more.

This may be the most acutely painful surprise life has in store for just about everyone. Whether it's the cute redhead in seventh grade or the dream girl you thought was waiting for you at the altar, the out-of-the-blue dumping is a bullet to the heart. This one is gonna need some wallowing, but give yourself limits or you could be stuck for years. The biggest surprise of the sucker punch breakup is that you wake up and you are alive the next day. And the day after that. The big reveal is that life goes on.
So, okay, you get to wallow - for a short while. You get to be down on love for about two weeks. Then it's time to dig in and see how in the world you didn't see it coming? Were you honest with yourself about who this person really was and who you were in this relationship? Honesty is the first step to spiritual growth and wow, do we grow when love shatters.

Is there a magic formula for pushing past life's dark events? Not yet. But there is magic in the acceptance of life's events. Even in the midst of everything slipping away there is freedom in detachment and that all things are temporary. Yes, it hurts. But it won't hurt forever. For in all things good and bad, one truth remains, this too, shall pass.

So good luck picking yourself up off the floor. Just remember to always learn your lessons, never settle and pretty soon you'll be on to a bigger, better life!


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